And then one morning you sawed me open, cutting your hand in the process. Blood swam in, and silver, and nothing was ever the same.
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Natalia Drepina
How Orgasms & Depression Are Linked
Good sex for me is when I can forget myself. That moment when all I am is the pleasure that I am feeling. All my energy coalesces into one point of focus and explodes. I think this is what the Big Bang must have felt like on a monumental scale. Energy exploding. Infinite potential. The sense of multiplying expansion that will never end. But it always ends. The universe cannot keep being born and I cannot remain in a state of perpetual orgasmic ecstasy.
Read MoreSeeking Flings—Then Giving Them Up
In my mid-30s, my initial confidence level with attractive men didn’t match my perception of enduring relationship success; I felt doomed to fail on a protracted timeline. In this instance, and others, I chose to pursue someone based on the short-term nature of the possibilities. I knew I had Jack that first night. Boys like me; that doesn’t mean they stick around, so I was now choosing men who wouldn’t.
Read MoreGod, Masturbation, and Other Mistaken Beliefs in Rural Oregon
In bed at night at 12, I still prayed as I had as a child, but instead of my lists of blessings and natural disasters, I began asking for the strength to control myself, and, when that failed, I would bargain for forgiveness. I offered up whatever I could think of in order to relieve my sense of guilt. People were sure to tell me masturbation was wrong, but no one ever told me you weren’t suppose to bargain with the Lord. My version of him was more like the witches of fairy tales, or the dealer of a high-stakes poker game. I reasoned that misbehaving would weaken my hand, making God less likely to protect me against death.
Read MoreStop Shaming Me Because I'm a Virgin
In my opinion, sex and adulthood are correlated, but are not related. Being a virgin, individuals assume you are innocent--uncorrupted. Still, just because your body is ready to have sex, it does not mean you are prepared in other aspects.
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Nora Scholz
Luna Luna Love & Lust: My First Vibrator
Dear Lynsey G,
I wonder if you'd be able to answer a question for me. I am looking to purchase my first vibrator and was thinking of obtaining one of the various brands of rabbit type toy. I recently read an article of yours from Luna Luna and found myself wondering if I should take the plunge, so to speak, and finally purchase one. I have never really needed one in the past, as I have been able to see to my needs (by myself or with a partner) satisfactorily without. However, reading all the hype and reviews, I find myself curious but skeptical. Reviews like, "intense orgasm within seconds" and such leave me wondering if all the hype is accurate, or marketing. Is it worth spending the money? By never having tried these types of toys, am I missing out?
Love, Curious but Skeptical
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Petra Collins
The 9 Sex Toys Every Couple Needs
But after attending the Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles, then the Adult Novelty Expo and Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas earlier this month, I’m happy to report that this tension is starting to evaporate, overcome by technological advancements. Not only are there more sex toys than ever on the market for men to enjoy, there’s also a burgeoning market for couples-friendly toys.
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